You will see groups of guys and girls, and never the two shall meet," she said. Your internal dialogue should be a positive one," she added. The person I have teamed up with was found on this site, we have made arrangements to marry in the new year. It's not about trying to talk to the person you like, it's also about the people they are with. I have meet someone through Matchfinder, and we are currently enjoying getting to know eachother. Is sex OK — even before the first date?